20 Things I’ve Learned in 2020

Even the most painful and fearful situation can teach us the good sides of life. I’d love to share with you what I have learned this year… This freakin’ tough teacher year. 🙂

1. Go back to basics- more than anything else, remember all the good habits in health and safety.

2. Have a sustainable living – I think many people did try backyard gardening or ‘gulayan sa bakuran’. Raise your hand if you’re one.

3.Live one day at a time – don’t overthink or it can kill you in no time.

4. Avoid negativity, don’t spend so much time on social media. Trust me, it is where the most stressful events and info are posted.

5. Level up productivity – you won’t be bored if you find something to do.

6. Make hobbies worth your time rather than just killing time.

7. Transitions can be hard, but it pays for a lifetime.

8. Happiness is anywhere but it stays at home.

9. Patience means anything you do to hold your temper. Haha!

10. Be prepared – don’t underestimate warnings, don’t disregard notifications about safety protocol and disaster awareness.

11. Don’t worry too much – it will not solve the problem.

12. Be resourceful – discover new ideas, use your skills and talents

13. Be creative – in everything you do, give your best. Show the artist within you.

14. Be thankful no matter what – learn to see the brighter side of everything. Focus on seeing what you have rather than the things that aren’t.

15. Stop complaining- be contented, don’t ask too much. Our government officials have limitations, too. They aren’t superheroes.

16. Communicate in any form, by any means – Check on your relatives or your childhood friends. Ask how they’re doing. Say Hi. It won’t cost too much of your time.

17. Think before you talk and click (of course) – it will save you from shame. And don’t be gullible – fake news can be deceiving.

18. Don’t be compulsive – you don’t need all the things you LIKE. Learn the difference. Think about this the next time you shop online.

19. Respect yourself so that others will – respect yourself by practicing safety-first. Wear facemask, wash hands, and keep a distance. It can save many lives.

20. Hold on to your faith – above all, it is what we must learn first.

What Writers Have in Common

Writer’s block…

If you’re a writer and you don’t experience writer’s block, then you’re either lucky or not a real writer at all. I’ve got a few things to share whenever I experience writer’s block. Things have changed from a young college writer I was to a married woman and mom I am now. Before, I can write down my thoughts anytime and anywhere I was. But now, I’ve got to take advantage of the quiet evening when everyone in the house has fallen asleep. It’s a bad thing to have writer’s block at 2 o’clock in the morning so I do the following to keep me going:

1. I stick to my old routine. I keep tuned in to my favorite FM station 979 Home radio. A cup of coffee to wake up my mind and start writing a different topic. Writing a different topic aside from the one you are assigned to will help exercise your thoughts. It is called the diversion of your thoughts.

2. A writer’s block happens when you’ve got too much to digest about the specific topic. It is important to organize your thoughts and keep a draft on how and what kind of approach you would apply to the whole content.

3. If you are a content writer who is assigned with topics outside your comfort zone, reading materials related to the topic is a must but keep the plagiarism app as your closest friend. Trust me, it will help you keep your job.

4. Writer’s block is inevitable. It happens anytime anywhere without any consideration of your due date. For me, it’s not worth it to sit in front of your laptop while loading your thoughts. I stand up and promise to not come back refreshed. Forcing my mind to think will end up a non-sense content. I don’t mind. I leave it all behind.

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If it’s not a good day for you, do not write. If you’re having a bad mood, do not attempt to write. If you are not feeling inspired or dedicated to writing the assigned topic, just do the dishes or the laundry instead.

There is no way out when you’ve got writer’s block. But having all the things right from the start will pave the way for you to write with all your heart. I’m having writer’s block right now and I hope this diversion of my thoughts would help me come back inspired. Hope you’ve got something useful with these pointers, too. Good luck!

Best Place Called Home

(Raising a child with a speech delay)

Family bonding creates a huge impact to encourage a child to speak. This is what I found out over the last two years.

I’m a mum of a three year-old child with speech delay. And the only place I could take him, instead of going to expensive therapy clinics, is at the four corners of our home and into the church.

How to raise a child who is challenged to communicate? It’s never easy. But, it lead me to such a fulfilling journey of discovering my son’s strengths and challenges. I enjoy writing down and documenting his milestones every single day.

As a parent, I seek for the best therapist in town or the high-end medical facility that can help my child overcome this speech delay stage. But the truth is, we just can’t afford on-going therapy, evaluation, consultations and lots of doctors opinion that costs more than my monthly salary.

I have to read a lot, join groups of parents with speech delay child, and dig up research and findings about related case studies for children with developmental delays. I have to improvise and think of a tactic to let him express the words he wants to say. Just like a blog I wrote about a ‘Puppet Tactic” using the world’s number one self-feeding tool called Mashblox. 👇
https://mashblox.com/…/puppet-tactic-we-let-them-speak-mash…

It’s not a simple task for a busy working-mum like me. I used to feel guilty for having a lack of time to spend with him the whole day. But, I figured it out how to make it up when I’m home. I’ve researched some effective home therapy and the best app to help my son talk. Just like the updated version of ‘Talking Tom’. Tom repeats what my son is saying so it encourages him to talk more. I bought a wireless microphone to encourage him to sing.

I’ve discovered that the first best place to encourage a child to communicate is at home. It’s where they learn the basics. Honestly, this is the only thing I know and can afford so I have to enhance what I’ve learned from the experts with my background in Psychology.

Our day to day journey has been filled with huge challenges but we hold on tight to our faith that my son will pass this stage in God’s time.

My son is turning four soon. He’s no longer that little cuddle bear I used to rock late at night and feed at three in the morning. So much about the things that I missed when he was a tiny cheeky baby, I’m proudest of his speech improvement and milestones from a chirpy toddler to a little gentleman now. He’s growing up fast and I love how he has developed some of his father’s daily routine like combing his hair, wearing his big shoes and walking around the house like his ‘Dada’ does.

He was 9 months past two years old when I started bringing him to Children’s worship service (PNK). Soon, he’ll be officially included on the list of attendees every Sunday Morning. I’m just so excited as my son takes another milestone in his age.

As a former Children’s Worship Service (CWS) teacher who married a co-CWS teacher in 2014, I’d love to see my son possess good values and learn the right way of worship service at an early age. My husband and I both know the importance of teaching and nurturing a child with the gospel of truth to the kids. And most especially, it’s a vow that we dedicate for him to pass the stage of speech delay.

Our family bonding has turned into precious moments! It’s helping my child express his thoughts through singing, babbling, playing, laughing, and repeatedly talking every single time.

My son can sing high notes now while pretending to hold an improvised mic or a hymnal. It’s true when they say that the child imitates what he sees. One time, I was secretly laughing when I watch him in front of the mirror while pretending to shave his cheeks and chin– like father, like son. Of course, we don’t let him hold a razor but the scene has totally cracked me up.

There are times when I caught my son playing alone with the tiny cars and little bears piled up and he’s seriously making a ’broom-broom’ sound and a loud ‘ahhh’ when one bear is almost falling from the truck. He can express different emotions now, and I love it. He can show love and affection when I pretend to be crying. He could tease me when I’m serious and his giggles are just music to my ears. He can pretend to be crying when he wants our full attention. Then, I’d ease it up for him and cuddle him like I always do when he was little.

Our family has been challenged with my child’s speech delay but it doesn’t stop us right there. We have to create little happy memories to help him overcome this stage. We always encourage him to express his thoughts, anger, disappointment, sadness, and joyfulness. Let him deal with his feelings but help him understand difficulties by rubbing his back and giving him a kiss on his forehead and a big hug.

He can’t speak clearly but he leads the prayer before we go to sleep. (We still have to decode what he prayed for last night)😁

He can’t speak well but he listens carefully and behave inside the church. (Take note: he behaves better than the older kids)😉

He doesn’t say hi, hello, but he would greet a fellow with a big smile and say ‘bye-bye’ to the other kids and elders he met.

He doesn’t say it but express his thoughts wholeheartedly. His gestures are so expressive, and I don’t have any doubt he would be able to work out how to say it into words.

Our family bonding every night and on weekends turn to be precious little memories that can help him achieve milestones in his age. I know, he might need to attend a speech therapy someday, but we have to figure out how to help him out of love and creativity. We know our son better than anyone else. He has gone through levels of developments which we celebrate as God’s miracles to our little family.

As his parents, we both know that our efforts to teach him how to be a good servant of God, nurture and nourish him with love and care, and encourage him to be a better man as he grows old, will not only help him pass the delay stage but to be a better person.

We need to strongly hold on to our faith to be able to overcome challenges. As parents, we also need to do the tricks and magic of family bonding moments at a place we call HOME. And it’s the only affordable resources at the moment– family love.

Home is where we learn the basics about dealing and living life. Teaching the kids with the right foundation of faith and values is the key to get all our prayers–answered in time.

Roller Coaster Ride, Extreme Hike

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A photo story about our Banaue, Ifugao-Buscalan, Kalinga trip on September 1-2, 2019

This is not just your ordinary road trip. Live with the locals and get exclusively tattooed in a traditional way by Apo Whang od. 


Going up, sliding down in split seconds, turning left and right alongside of the huge rocks and heights, round the cliffs, gold and green mountain valleys ahead–this is the kind of trip via Nueva Vizcaya- Ifugao-Mountain Province road. 

I’ve never known the word extreme road trip until we went to Banaue and Buscalan in Mountain Province.

On the first day of the ‘ber’ months, we hit the road in mid-night. My usual Sunday-Monday routine was given an unexpected twist experience with the upside down travel to the finest scenery of Mountain Province. 

It was originally a medical team trip composed of nurses and a doctor, but I was invited to join the adventure. We’re a total of fourteen pax plus our coordinator and organizer, Kuya Eddie and Ate Charm from Tara Let’s Explore event planner.


The trip went challenging yet exciting because of the twists and turns alongside of the Mountain province road. In the end, we were advised that it usually takes 15 hours but the driver was able to cut it down to 12. Our van driver from Taong Kalye 100 assured us it’s been like a playground for them, taking the same route four times a week.

Imagine our hearts pounding with thrill! It was purely an extreme ride! Eventually, we managed to overcome the ‘almost heart-attack stage’ to a fun-filled trip, setting aside dizziness and nausea, or I guess we’re just trying to forget it, otherwise we would end up smelling vomit. Overall, it was such a long trip we survived. 

Let the trek begin! Buscalan trail should only take 45 minutes but our team is composed of mostly beginners so we reached the top at an average pace of less than two-hour hike. For me, it was a tricky trail because of the concrete stairs in between a stiff altitude and rock slides.

Imagine our hearts pounding with thrill!

Meeting a 102-year old rockstar in the world of traditional tattoo, Apo Whang od is the oldest ‘mambabatok’ from the But-but tribe in Buscalan Village. I felt like I was star-strucked when I met her for the very first time because she’s so cool and she looks younger than her age. 

At first, it was awkward to approach her because she doesn’t speak Tagalog, only But-but dialect, but when it was my turn to take a photo with her– her smile is contagious! She has a ducane smile which I admire. I was truly tempted but I never get a tattoo. Sadly, not even Apo Whang od’s three-dot signature. 


Photo opp with Apo Whang Od at 102 years old

Apo Whang od had this naughty style of touching a male’s testicles when she’s in the mood. One of our co-traveler was actually sampled and it was a joyful scene and a precious moment with a local legend. 

Two days and one night stay in Buscalan was such a mix of experience. We traveled with our expectations and we end up overwhelmed with the overflowing warmth of the scenery in spite of the low temperature in Banaue. I love the wooden house where we shared sleeping beds and stories about knowing each other. A 12-hour-ride from Pampanga to Buscalan had put everyone into a goodnight sleep that quiet Sunday evening.


The locals were so accommodating and hospitable. I won’t forget the next morning when I wake up and I was greeted with a cold crisp wind and the view of the sky kissing the mountain while I sip a freshly brewed coffee. I had a chance to take a photo with a local lolo having his coffee, too. 

Morning coffee with the locals in Buscalan Village, Tinglayan, Kalinga
Courtesy shot by Xanthi


Our tour coordinators, Kuya Eddie and Ate Charm Asuncion are generous and friendly. They know when you can’t go on and give you a tap on your back to loosen up. I woke up in the evening for dinner and chatted with Kuya Eddie about my previous trek in Mt. Ulap. Ate Charm is such an experienced traveler as well, they both made it a meaningful trip for everyone. How can I forget the tastiest daeng na bangos that we ate for breakfast? Deliciously crunchy! 

When you travel, you encounter the most unexpected journey of your life. Came across different types of people whom you end up as comrades instead of just acquaintances. It is true that when you conquer a new destination, you become more humble and appreciative with what you have in life rather than complaining about the obstacles you can’t surpass.

Life is hard, but how you see it makes a lot more difference than just doing nothing about itTara Let’s Explore and Hang around!

Earth: Let’s Face it!

What I stand for is what I stand on– Earth.

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“Leave nothing but footprints. Take nothing but pictures. Kill nothing but time…”

These are some of the basic rules when you climb up the mountain, when you go for a walk in the park, wandering at the beach, or simply enjoying the serenity and peace in nature.

Have you been a tourist, a voyager, a mountaineer, or a morning jogger? Probably, you might have witnessed a perfect sunrise, a dewy mist of a foggy morning, and a cold crisp air in the night. Do you see the falling leaves and how they pile up into a golden-brown pieces of dried mats? They go back to the face of the earth, leaving nothing but silhouettes of viens and stems. You might have seen a photo or two of such fascinating clutters on the ground, under the tree where they’re scaterred around.

On the other hand, have you ever imagined what happened to the plastic bottles and cups if not properly segregated as a trash or into a recycled craft? Chances are, they’re all lying lifeless at the park or on the sidewalks where no one cares about.

Take a deep breath and think before you buy your fav frappe, an icy bubble tea in a plastic cup, or a frozen smoothie. Where are you supposed to through the palstic cups aftermath? Choose to save the earth rather than help destroy it. Let’s face it! And keep it safe from the destructive hands of the people who think they make life convenient while leaving the earth a lifeless planet.

You think a clean-up drive is enough? But, where do you throw out the plastic bags, disposable cups? Back to the land you’ve cleaned up? Take actions and be responsible to take care of your habitat. After all, it’s where we all live. The earth is our shelter, hence we should take care of it more than anything else. When it cries, we suffer. When it dies, we can’t go anywhere.

Learn how to appreciate the beauty of nature by not littering a single trash wherever you go. We can help make the Earth a better place to live in, by planting more trees and promoting sustainable living. What could have been fun than living back to the basics? Definitely life changing! Try going out sometimes, and feel the rain on your skin, savour the sunshine that can take away the shiver of the evening. Try reaching out the peak of awareness where you solemnly promise to take care of the land that bears the food you eat out of your hand.

Let’s face it. The face of the earth is the face of the people living on it. What can we do to help lessen the burden of nature? Food scarcity, lack of potable water source, flooding, natural disasters and calamities, landslides, and tsunami are nightmares we don’t want to end up to.


Let’s face it– we only live once, and so is the Earth we live in.

Three Peaks, One Day: The Sea of Clouds

By Cecille V. De Guzman

Mt. Ulap (Ampucao-Sta. Fe Ridge) Itogon, Benguet

You won’t see the true beauty of nature just by taking pictures. Stop and stay for a while! And do something to promote eco-conservation and sustainable living. 

“Then one day you realize, things will never be the same as they used to be”

On the twelfth of May 2019 I was one of the 14 pax of beginners and pros who have conquered Mt. Ulap in spite of the unpredictable weather. I had the greatest experience of trekking the first mountain after several years past Junior camps, Mt. Isarog trail, Tigaon Hills and the Hibiscus Camp in Consocep. It was nothing but childhood memories but a lifestyle carried over my adult life–an advocacy and love for nature.


After a four-hour-travel from Dau, Mabalacat terminal to the jump-off trail in Ampucao, the whole trip never failed my expectations up to the glorious peaks of  Ambanao-Paoay (1788 masl), Gungal (1814masl) and lastly Mt. Ulap Summit (1846 masl). Yeah, three peaks in one day hike!

A wrist band souvenir I got from the trip

I was able to touch the clouds and taste it as I breathe in the cold crisp of humid air on top of the mountain. More than the panoramic view down below, I realized that going up there is not just a matter of physical activity but an advocacy running in my veins for years. We can do something to keep the fresh air, save the trees, and conserve natural resources in this shelter we called– Earth.  Let us go back to basic.

Adventures never end after one another…


Sixth Sense: See Yourself Glow

By Cecille V. De Guzman

Do you have a sixth sense? Not as creepy as it sounds, but your sense of ability to see yourself through other people’s point of view.

I’m a guinea pig of my own thoughts but not self-centered. I might have read about it somewhere, that in order to improve and figure out my purpose, I need to see myself through someone else’s eyes. What do people see in me? How do they see me? And at the end of the day, I also ask myself– how do I see myself? Am I goal oriented, self-determined, emotionally, spiritually, and socially balanced? Or, have I felt incapacitated, misunderstood, and feared?

It’s important to know, and eventually determine how and what you see in yourself that others don’t. So, the next time you receive prejudice and scrutiny, keep this in mind–you have the power to see yourself within and you know yourself better than these blind-folded critics. Some may see you as if they know you, but only those people you allow to see you inside will understand and appreciate you.

I’m writing my thoughts in a clear view of myself being assessed and gauged in terms of my capabilities and opportunities– from my own point of view to yours. I know myself well, but I need honest feedback and a trusted person’s advice to validate every angle of my decision. I’m confident with my work, but I need a colleague’s suggestion and a mentor’s opinion if I’m on the right path. I don’t think it’s lack of independence, but purely initiative to consult others and create an open atmosphere for communication.

I’ve never settled for anything ‘not proven and validated’, including my fears and doubts about something I need to take. I usually take time to visualize myself doing what I think is right and compare it to — what others think that might be better.

Don’t fear to break the norm, but take courage to consider common expectation. You are the commander of your own life, but the people around you can help you become a better person. Choose the right people to surround you, and avoid those with ‘negative signs’. However, you can’t avoid dealing with some of them, so you should highlight only the learning rather than the unbecoming. ‘Hashtag’ the positivity, not the negativity.

Many times, I asked– what am I up to? What can I offer to the world? Whoa, what a big word! But, have you ever thought about it before? What do other people say about you? What do close friends tell about you? (when you can’t hear them)

Does it matter to you? Do you even care about what other people say? Or, do you just want to listen to the voice inside you? It’s important to evaluate these things, otherwise, you’ll end up being ‘me-myself-and-I’ kind of person. ‘No person is an island’– it’s true.

Seriously, I’m not talking about what is good or bad, and what is right or wrong– let’s leave it to the preachers. I am talking about being just an ordinary person who does the day-to-day activity. Are you a friend, a colleague, a passenger, a driver,  a teacher, a family member? What kind of difference have you made so far? What sets you aside from being ordinary? What makes people value you, as a friend, as a colleague, and as a person? What makes you glow in the crowd of ordinary people? Have you got a sixth sense where you can see yourself through someone else’s eyes, and admire you for being who/what you are?

I am extraordinary, passionate, creative, appreciative, and straightforward; It’s how I see myself. Hence, I’m writing this daily insight to you– to encourage, affirm, and help you assess yourself, too. It’s my own way of making a difference.

It is nobody’s business to criticize others unless otherwise given permission to criticize one’s opinion, personality, and/or ability. Nobody knows better what you’re up to, but yourself alone. Yourself is your best friend, but be careful how you put yourself in a spotlight. Beware of seeing just ‘all the good things’ about you, instead, see yourself through someone else’s eyes where you can see your flaws and insecurities.

Not only your own perspective will help you determine your strength and weaknesses. Nothing is wrong about considering what other people say about you, just don’t indulge and get pressured about it too much. It’s just a matter of ‘thinking like them’ to help you analyze your failures, your attitude, and the opportunities you need for self-improvement.

If you seek advice, listen and weigh things properly. Why would you even ask for a friend’s advice and go on with what you think is acceptable? It doesn’t make any sense. When you ask for honest feedback, learn to accept and digest it. Don’t ask for something you would not even consider thinking about. It’s practically a waste of time for both of you.

Therefore, be confident about how you assess yourself with the help of the people you permit to criticize you, not from those who give unsolicited advice. You know who you are with your five senses. Learn the sixth sense– it’s seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes.

Finally, see yourself glow in the crowd of ordinary people.

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Take a Pause

By Cecille De Guzman

Is it okay to slow down sometimes?

In a world where everything is fast-paced, it is okay to slow down and take a pause. The last three decades of my life taught me how to put the reality in a series of scenarios where I can watch them play and pause if I need to. I have learned that it’s not necessary to be always ‘on the go’, but rather take a pause to realize what is going on.

Ask yourself now, ‘what is going on in my life’? I ask myself the same question when it seems like things are unmanageable. No one would ask me this question except myself. Yes, I slow down and take a pause because I need to realize why my ideas do not seem to work; why I don’t get expected results; why am I not able to make it; why did I fail after trying hard?

The answer is honest and simple. I would not know the answers to these questions if I keep on going. Should I keep on running even though it means missing a lot of things? Or, should I just walk to have clear thinking?

We all need to take a pause and slow down. Because weighing which is a better option can lead you to an ideal decision. When you take a pause on the things happening around you, you will notice this one thing. Lack of understanding of why things are happening in your life leads you to the path of nowhere. Where is your direction if you haven’t figured out your purpose anyway? Will you keep on running until you fall down because life must go on? Stop! You should take a pause.

I was once running fast in my early twenties, but I stumble and fall without learning why I was running after all. My life used to be a ‘work-eat-and-sleep’ process. It was the fastest way ‘I know and I can’. Because I thought life must go on, I didn’t stop until I stumble and fall in the wrong direction. I got tired without knowing why. I was lonely but I couldn’t cry. I failed many times without learning the lessons in life. I thought life must go on, so I didn’t take a pause to know the answers to the ‘whys’. I was wrong.

It’s okay to slow down sometimes. In a railroad crossing, there’s signage that says ‘STOP, LOOK, and LISTEN’. I used to wonder why it has been my favorite public safety warning, but now I know why. We all need to STOP because life can be so tiring and demanding at times; LOOK around because lessons in life are waiting to be uncovered; and lastly, LISTEN to what your experiences teach you because it’s where you can find your purpose and direction moving forward.

It’s okay. Take a pause sometimes.


Humility- The Secret of all Success Stories

You don’t need to act like you know it all when you don’t.

I believe in the old saying ‘little knowledge is dangerous’. In fact, it could mean a total destruction, such a really big mess.

Growing up, I always keep in mind that my knowledge isn’t sufficient enough. I always crave to learn more. Know more in details, bits and pieces of learning.

Because learning is an endless process, I’d been thirsty and hungry for knowledge. Beyond learning, it’s important to remain humble.

I once typed in my keyboard ‘I wanted to write something that all ages would read’.

In reality, I only have few hints about what topic to write about. Being caught in the middle of obligations and daily tasks as an ‘adult’, I decided I should read a lot. I wouldn’t call myself a bookworm but at least I’ve read more than a hundred books, newspapers, bulletin boards,flyers, newsletters, magazines, blogs,comic book series and even the old newspaper used for wrapping ‘tinapa’(smoked fish). I read a lot so I would learn a lot.

In spite of the praises and compliments I received from my colleagues, workmates, boss, loved ones and friends, I still feel like there’s a lot of areas for improvement waiting to be developed.

In my opinion, I do not believe in perfection and mastery. Everything needs to be honed, nurtured and innovated for a better outcome. I remain humble with the little knowledge I knew because I believe some people are just better than me.

I remember my English teacher, Mrs. Jane Sanao calling me ‘Savior of the Ship’ because I used to ‘bravely’ raise my hand when nobody seemed to try in the class. I didn’t know the answer either! I was shy to try but it’s the least thing I knew to speak out and humbly admit – how I perceived her question and ‘my answer is this’, regardless if it’s right or wrong.

Her questions about English literature were thought-provoking. She had to leave us, her advisory class, for a School Principal position outside the town. I was literally crying at the back of the class when she was telling us ‘she’s leaving’. On her last day, she wrote me a letter, a very inspiring letter.

I wrote about this on my book ‘A Hundred and Fifty Days – A High School Memoir’ (sadly got delayed for publishing but soon to be out in the book market).

Ma’am Jane wrote “to hone your writing skills and start by contributing to our school publication”. It was quite an average -length letter composed of about twenty uplifting sentences. She wrote it in a plain white bond paper.  I guess that was where it all officially started.

My writing journey blossomed from poems to short stories, from news report to featured news highlights, from insightful blogs to personal opinions, from website pages to books in progress. It all began from my old journal notebooks, colored black and gray.

I know it will all come down to reality. It’s just the latter part in process so I think that I’m almost there. Dearest people around me remind me to stay on a low ground. It’s very important, especially when you’re trying to build a profile of a ‘motivational writer and speaker be like’.

I have plenty things to prove to myself and my beloved readers. My only promise is to keep writing, learning and sharing it to you all. Probably, it may give you a ‘good point’. Somehow, it can make you ‘think’ and digest it in your own mind.

I’m not doing this just to be famous someday. What is fame if you have a negative image? I’m doing all of these because I want to share a delightful insight, I want to move your hearts, I want to encourage, I want to inspire young and old people. It’s not too late to learn. There is no age limit for determined dreamers, nor ‘late-bloomer’ for fresh ideas and ambitions.

Someday, ‘I want to write something that all ages would read’. Humility is one of the first important values I learned in life. I’m sharing these thoughts to the young ones because the world may confuse and overwhelm you in a hard way. I’m telling these things to the old ones because you might think ‘you know it all’ by experience or knowledge, but the truth reveals – you just knew few details of everything.

‘Don’t stop discovering and learning good things. It might help you become a better person than you think you are’.

Beyond all success stories I heard, it was all about humility I admire so much. It gives you the spotlight where you don’t really have to say a lot. Your attitude speaks a lot about yourself.

Honestly, I still struggle in English vocabulary. Tell you what, I still keep a dictionary or Mr. google every step of the way. Superheros need a backup. I’m not a ‘super dooper’ so definitely I need one. I understand that there’s a lot of things to learn, especially when I think about English writing field.

I still have few lists to try in terms of learning. I decided to take English online courses recently and probably getting a Bachelor’s degree in English major starting this year. (Hopefully, time and resources would agree).

Note that I I have aligned my priorities accordingly. I don’t just beat around the bush or say this and that. I need a sense of direction to achieve something.

While I take each steps carefully, I play a humble role of being someone who needs ‘more learning’, ‘more understanding’ how the world really works, and the people I meet everyday.

Once you think that you ‘know it all’ and stop learning, you’re beginning to sound like ‘the wisest idiot’ trying to convince others you know something, but yourself proclaims ‘you don’t need to act like you know it all’. Fair enough? Remind yourself about that the next time you feel like ‘you know everything!’. Try to keep your feet on the ground.

‘Be a humble learner, not a great pretender’.

Yours truly, Ces.


How To Be You?

By Cecille V. De Guzman

‘Don’t ask yourself to change to be like someone else. You’ll end up being an impostor inside your own body’

As much as I love telling stories, sharing my own experiences or other people I know who have fascinating journey, my favorite ‘topic’ to talk and write about is personality. It is so diverse but explicit enough to understand, appreciate and accept.

A dictionary says, one of the definitions of ‘personality’ is the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual’s distinctive character.

Regardless how it is defined by google or Merriam-Webster, one thing I know is about individual differences. You’re distinctive character makes you the real ‘you’. What makes you cool? What makes up your insecurities? What causes your fear? What do you think you’re good at? What are your potentials? Your weakness and strength? How do you see yourself before you sleep or when you wake up in the morning? All questions can be asked to yourself, your own personality.

You are who you really are. Do you know yourself better or have you tried comparing yourself to others? Don’t even think about competition with other person’s ability or disability because everyone is completely different from one another.

Your at your best but others may be at their worst. You’re wearing a calm and proud face yet it doesn’t seem to rhyme inside because you’re full of insecurities and doubt on your own capabilities.

The first time I heard about ‘individual differences’ is during my college days. I took Psychology course for two years and had gone pretty absorbed with the wonders about behavioral science, anger management, goal orientation and  personality development. I love reading, too, so it kind compliment the fields that I took during college days. I was a news reporter and literary writer at ‘The Democrat’ (University’s official publication) since I was a freshman. I got few names in my head who taught me about complexity of one’s personality and the secret to ‘knowing yourself well’. My co-writers, mentors, advisers and counselors who helped me understand the questions I had about myself.

You can’t say that you know yourself so well if you’re too afraid to take a risk in your own decision. You can’t say ‘I can do it better next time’ if you’re still in doubt about yourself. You can’t win a fight if you don’t prepare yourself to lose. Your point of view describes the way you look things up. Your words mirror the kind of person hiding in the deepest darkest place of your safe-zone. Your thoughts reflect your actions. What kind of personality are you trying to build inside you right now? What influences you can be contagious to anyone get along. Be careful when you learn few steps because it may lead you astray without careful thinking, cautious analyzation of who you really are, what you really are – as a person. It is your personality, your perception, your views and opinion, your judgement and realization that makes you the real you.

There’s no such thing as ‘perfect personality’ but there can be ideal. We get inspiration from people who have vast experiences, positive values and thoughts about things. However, we are in-denial of our own imperfections sometimes. Too much longing to be somebody else when you can be someone like the ‘real you’. Before you think about ‘how to be someone else’ think about ‘how to be you’.

Learn to appreciate your lapses, accept your limitations and be subjective in making conclusion about yourself. It’s not a bad thing to deal with your incapability. It’s called fearlessness. You are brave enough to accept, appreciate and develop to overcome it along your way.

You can be influenced with positive vibes but never let yourself indulge in possessing one’s personality- it’s called a ‘copycat’.

Have your own unique way of dressing up, or talking, or walking and laughing. Authenticity is a trend. It never runs out of style. Being unique is different from being true to yourself. Knowing yourself means possessing the kind of personality that you’re comfortable with. You like rugged styles, you’re confident talking in public, you’re shy, you’re vocal, it’s okay, you’re fine. You can’t pretend to be someone else because it looks pretty cool.

You don’t need to accept the trend if it’s not really agreeable in your will. It’s like eating a cake but you really crave for a slice of pizza. You’ll end up longing for it’s savory taste. You’ll end up hungry because you’re not satisfied. The cake didn’t satiate your taste buds. It’s not what you’re craving for. It’s not what you really want.

It’s like filling your head with unknown thoughts, you won’t recognize somebody else’s beliefs, but you are fully aware where you stand. Your personality can be influenced but never it will change you to something ‘brand-new’.

One’s personality can be developed and cultivated but never fully-changed. It is healthy to admire an ideal personality but be authentic and unique in your own way. Don’t stumble and fall into comparison. Don’t ask yourself to change to be like someone else. You’ll end up being an impostor inside your own body. Before you ask ‘how to be you’ to somebody, ask yourself this question first.

How to be you?